Master Facilitator Journal

Master Facilitator Journal | Issue #0559, October 23, 2012

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Dear Friends,

Our beliefs at times, serve us very well. At other times, they create all manner of havoc in our lives and in the world. My friend Neerja Bhatia and I co-wrote this week's article entitled, Do you Believe? where we explore beliefs and their capacity to either separate our unify us.

If you or your colleagues are interested in submitting an article for consideration, please email your ideas. I'd love to hear from you. We hope our work continues to bring inspiration to your world. Thank you for being a part of our growing community and please continue to send your wonderful feedback.


Steve Davis



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The Point

Do you Believe?
To expand your consciousness, develop a flexible relationship to beliefs.

Self-Mastery Skill

The current Presidential election is doing it's best to capitalize on potential differences between the candidates, even where they don't exist. There are so many issues upon which people take strong positions believing they are right and others are wrong. How important is it to hold on to positions and beliefs that disconnect us? And how often do we drill down to discover the common interests that underlie most of these beliefs? Unfortunately, hardly ever!

Some would say that our biggest problem today is the loss of our connection with what’s right and wrong. This assumes that definitions of right and wrong are timeless and easily applied to all future situations. But then how would we find agreement on these definitions?

Please understand that we’re not suggesting the impulse for right action doesn’t exist. In fact we assert that at any given time, life presents us with a non-impulsive impulse for right action. This knowing is not a recall from the repository of belief systems, but a still small voice that points to what’s needed in this situation now.

Having the stillness of mind to discern this right action is an entirely different matter. Giving in to the temptation to judge the diverse beliefs and opinions of others serve only to set us against one another and keeps us from knowing ourselves and others more deeply. As Rumi’s once said, Out beyond ideas of right doing and wrong doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there. The field Rumi speaks of is the presence of mind where the connection inspired by our common humanity speaks louder than our mind's idea of right and wrong.


Some of our most insidious beliefs are those we hold about ourselves. I was raised in a family steeped deeply in criticism. As I’ve grown, I’ve learned to release a good deal of judgment about others. Still, the last frontier has been judgments about myself. Repetitive thoughts that questions about my self-worth, my abilities, and my value run deep. Over the past year, I’ve seriously practiced releasing these as well. The battle is not over, but I’m making progress. The greatest relief has come with knowledge that no belief is true and those include beliefs about myself.

What kinds of policies and structures do you have in place in your organization to promote openness? This is certainly a trait necessary to find unity in diversity. Promote and reward the following acts of courage to create an environment of openness for leaders.

1. Challenge your beliefs. Real change only happens when we challenge our beliefs. A great place to begin is to question your beliefs about yourself. We can begin to unlearn the habits of self-criticism, self-destruction and set the stage to experience the extraordinary within. This requires expanding from IQ to Emotional, Physical, Spiritual and Creative Intelligences.

2. Notice your resistance. Inner resistance is a sign that we’re up against our limits. True human potential remains dormant under resistance. To unleash the pure potential, we must understand the root of our resistance. This requires vigilance, openness, and a willingness to inquire into it.

3. Loosen hold of your beliefs. How we see others is a direct reflection of our inner state of being. Creating a shift in our perspective impacts our relationships. How can you adjust the lens through which you see others? Here is a suggestion:

Notice when you have the impulse to judge the opinions of others. Instead of preparing your counter-argument, dig deeper into the other’s point of view. Ask questions until you dig down to the bedrock of the other person’s beliefs. At this level of understanding, you may discover that there is less distance between the two of you than you previously thought.

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What are you willing to do this week to loosen your hold on beliefs? Please send me your comments by replying to this email. Please click on Add Your Comments to share your questions, feedback, or experience.
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