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Master Facilitator Journal | Issue #0444, May 18, 2010

 
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Well Survivor did it to me again! I'm talking about the Survivor TV Series that appears on CBS every Thursday night. The finale aired last Sunday night and surely this season's "Heros versus Villains" was without a doubt the most entertaining and intriguing one on record. You may not be surprised to hear that I tend to watch this show with an eye on the fascinating group dynamics displayed each week. And this season, there were some deep lessons that I just have to relate to you as group leaders and change agents. Please have a look at this week's article Lessons for a Dictator and indulge me as I play off a hulking metaphor for group and community dysfunction called Russell Hantz.

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The Point


Lessons for a Dictator
Look at the long-term consequences of short-term gain.


Self-Management Skill


Well Survivor did it to me again! I'm talking about the Survivor TV Series that appears on CBS every Thursday night. The finale aired last Sunday night and surely this season's "Heros versus Villains" was without a doubt the most entertaining and intriguing one on record. You may not be surprised to hear that I tend to watch this show with an eye on the fascinating group dynamics displayed each week. And this season, there were some deep lessons that I just have to relate to you as group leaders and change agents. Please indulge me as I play off a hulking metaphor for group and community dysfunction called Russell Hantz.

The title for this article is inspired by the game's most compelling and evil villain, Russell Hantz. He played during the previous season also making it to the end of the game but not winning. Note that "winning" requires a majority vote cast for one of the three remaining contestants by a jury composed of the last nine contestants voted out. So what was it that got my attention about Russell with regard to group dynamics? In my view, Russell embodied the following two principles in this game.

Self-obcessed and short-sighted. While you have to consider yourself first to win the game of Survivor, if you never consider harm to others in your decisions, this will ultimately come back to bite you. In this case, the last nine of your peers will not give you a single vote and you ultimately lose. Russell's behavior stood out as a timeless testament to the long-term costs of greed and dysfunctional group leadership.

Hyper focus on goal while blind to process. He made it clear from the beginning of this game that he was in total control of the game and everyone in it. He contended that he was smarter and better than any other player and that if anyone crossed him, they would lose. Russell epitomized ultimate self-confidence in attaining his goal, not due to his skills necessarily, but due to the fact that the level to which he would stoop to assure his survival knew no bounds. Bold lies, threats, and deception weren't used only if needed, but where his typical daily fare.


Application


So what lessons are we to glean from this character that I think are so important? Here we go:

What does winning mean? The game of Survivor, just like the game of life, has more than one dimension. Yet I see that many of us tend to live this game without this knowledge. How many of us ask, "What will it cost in terms of the health of my relationships, physical health, peace of mind, and sense of community if I focus on the money exclusively?"

Twice now, Russell made it to the end of the game but didn't win the votes of the jurors and hence win the game. In fact, one participant remarked at the end of the show, Russell, you only play to make it to the end of the game, not to win the game. He agreed but didn't seem to have the capacity to understand that he might be missing something. His response is that there is a flaw in the game. He laid waste to everyone else so he should have won! Again, he faithfully displays that dark corner of the human ego that will self-destruct to "win." Yes, this is totally irrational but still alive and well in our collective psyche.

Lesson 1: Embrace a bigger bottom line. One that includes healthy relationships, self-respect, community contribution, in addition to money.

Modern society is about results if nothing else. But how we define our desired results is often fragmented and limited. For example, is getting a task accomplished at the expense of our relationships to those involved really progress?

Total disregard for the ultimate health and capacity of your group in order to "win" is self-destructive. Hitler didn't seem to care if the whole world was destroyed in order to have his way and "win" the war. After losing the game and getting direct feedback from players that you must consider relationships with those in the game if you are to truly win the game, Russell states that the game is "flawed." He is obviously oblivious to his own flawed perspective.

Lesson 2: Lies, manipulation, and deception may actually "work" in the short term, but they have a long-term cost.

That is, shortcuts can be taken to get quicker results and sometimes these shortcuts comprise social laziness. In other words, it may be easier for some to lie and deceive to get their way today, but down the road a price is paid.

Russell's strategy was brilliant in some ways but very short-sighted. It "worked" to get him to the end of the game but in the jury of his peers, it didn't get him the prize. For me, this is a beautiful metaphor for the old model of success that still largely runs the machine. Right now I'm thinking of the Challenger disaster, the recent banking collapse, and I strongly suspect we'll find similar short cuts in the case of the recent Gulf Oil spill.

Lesson 3: Don't give in to fear.

I believe that another reason Russell was so successful in running this game was that he would create fear through threats or intimidation when things weren't going his way. Many times in the game, others could have easily dismissed him and his dysfunctional antics by simply voting him out. But his arguments were very forceful and tended to appeal to other's fear.

From what I see, many people are run by fear and tend to believe the worst. This doesn't have to be. What we see and believe is a choice and whenever actions we see or words we hear strike fear in you, don't let it sweep you away. Stop and take a deep breath. Center yourself, let reason return, listen to your heart, and use your head.

Bigger Picture? Dysfunctional behavior can be dramatic and entertaining from a distance. This kind of shadow viewed in Russell has been seen on a larger scale in characters like Hitler, Stalin, Mussolini, and Wall Street Bankers. An unquestioned entitlement to having their way no matter the carnage in their wake. A sobering reminder when viewed as entertainment on network TV, even rewarded by a nationwide vote as Player of the Season, that we humans are very easily deceived.

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