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The Master Facilitator Journal | Issue #0041| February 19, 2002
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Group Awareness & Management
Skill

Hey Mr. Facilitator, This isn't Working! 

Challenges toward the facilitator by group members are valid and need to be attended to immediately.


The Point

One of a facilitator's (particularly a new facilitator's) greatest fears is the possibility that the group will object to what's they're doing or not cooperate with them in some way. 

Challenges may come to you directly as a verbal statement such as: "This process isn't working"..."your style isn't working with our group"..."your interventions are inappropriate"..."you're upsetting group members"...etc.

Challenges may also come indirectly in terms of behaviors such as: Participants are slow to respond to your suggestions, they talk amongst themselves, they are ignoring you, members take over the facilitation role without consent, participants consistently arrive back late from breaks, etc.

Challenges such as these, particularly direct challenges, are not only valid forms of communication from the group, but signs of a mature group that's strong enough to challenge what they feel isn't working. Challenges need to be resolved immediately by restating the challenge back to the group, asking for clarification if needed, and checking with the entire group for consensus. 

If the group concurs that something needs to change, ask them to suggest a process or direction they think is appropriate. If their isn't a strong consensus, you might suggest continuing on the present course to see if things clear up and revisit the issue later in the meeting. If a single participant brought up the issue and doesn't agree to this, then ask them to make a specific request.

Remember that you are only one member of the group and that you require their support and cooperation to help them reach their goals. If something isn't working, it's the entire groups' responsibility to get to the source of the problem. Ultimately though, it may turn out that you're not the right facilitator for this group at this time. This is not necessarily a reflection on your abilities, it just may be that your skills don't fit their needs at this time. Elicit any feedback you can from the group and check to see if you can use it in the future to improve your skills. Acknowledge that you're OK and they're OK and move on. 

Examples

If you're in a group and have received any one or several of the challenges listed above, you might intervene with a statement to the effect of:

"There have been several challenges to my facilitation at this meeting. I can only fulfill this role with the group's agreement. Let's have a look at what isn't working for each person."

Make sure to go around the room and get input from every participant. If any of the inputs are unclear, ask that they be restated until you understand them. Have one of the members record the issues then go back over each one providing suggestions yourself or asking for ideas from the group on how to resolve them. If a concern is unspecific, ask that the meeting continue and that the group consider your continuing role as part of the agenda at the end of the meeting, to be facilitated by another member.


Action

Reflect on any challenge you've received as a facilitator. What have you learned from it? Has what you've learned helped you to be a better facilitator? We'd love to hear your perspective on this important subject.  Please email your comments to us.


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Thank you for reading this issue of the Master Facilitator Journal.  Look for your next issue on February 26, 2002. 

 

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