Master Facilitator Journal


Master Facilitator Journal | Issue #0396, June 2, 2009

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Conflict is an element of group dynamics that challenges us most. This is so because conflict carries a lot of energy. Most of us have been conditioned to fear and avoid this kind of energy. Learning to view conflict as simply energy that can be used for good is a great first step toward effectively facilitating it. This week's article, Embrace and Resolve Conflict addresses just that subject.

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The Point

Embrace and Resolve Conflict

Conflict is a sign that the group is moving deeper and can be viewed
as a seed for transformation



Relating Skill


Conflict is a natural stage of a group process. But most of us have been taught to avoid it at all costs. So when we encounter it in groups, we tend to retreat from it, to the apparent safety of avoidance. Conflict is often a healthy sign that participants are getting "real" with one another. Its effective resolution results in increased understanding, intimacy, and trust, which equates to superior group performance. 

It takes a fair degree of intestinal fortitude to walk through the fire of conflict. To skillfully make this journey, you as a facilitator must have developed, to some degree, the self-mastery skills we present throughout this journal, so that you can walk through the conflict with the group and without retreating!

Now with that said, a lot of conflict can be avoided by attending to ground rules, using effective decision-making processes, and good record keeping. But when it does occur, intervene immediately so that it doesn't escalate to the point that it compromises the fabric of the group.



Application


Most conflict is the result of inaccurate assumptions and misunderstandings made by the conflicting parties. Your job as facilitator is to uncover these misperceptions while maintaining an atmosphere of respect.

Imagine that you're facilitating a working group and Sally is mad at Joe because she doesn't feel he's pulling his weight. The first step in resolving conflict is to get consent from the parties involved to work through it. You ask, "Sally and Joe, would you be willing to work this issue through with our support right now?" If they agree, get each of them in turn to explain their perspective, assumptions, and feelings, without blaming the other. 

Since emotions are usually charged during conflict, the challenge for you will be to get each side to stay with the facts, to own their own feelings around the history of the conflict, and to hear each other. When you get to the bottom of most conflicts, you'll usually find that both sides want something or have something in common that can form the beginning of an understanding between them. Your biggest task will be to help them break through the emotion and attachment to being right in order to get to this place and to hear the perspective of the other side.

Things to keep in mind when resolving conflict

  • Trust that the parties involved can work through the conflict.
  • Maintain mutual respect between conflicting parties.
  • Facilitate ownership language.
  • Make sure everything is spoken and heard by each party.
  • Have each party make requests of the other.
  • Check for resolution.

Action


The next time you are faced with a conflict either in a one-on-one relationship or in a group, seek to objectively hear the information that the other party is conveying underneath any emotion that is present. Ask questions to uncover all the facts before resorting to "stating your case." Let go of the need to be right and instead, embrace the desire to understand the other. In Steven Covey's words, "Seek first to understand, then be understood." This approach will go a long way in resolving or avoiding conflict all together. Please send me your comments by replying to this email.



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