Facilitator Journal | Issue #0349, July 3, 2008
This week's issue is about sharing your story, written by Steve Davis. Steve has been away now on retreat for almost 3 months, and we miss his presence. We pulled this heart felt and genuine article from his archives so we could share this with you. Storytelling is one of the most powerful methods to inform your audience while increasing participation and trust.
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Share your story
Storytelling is one
of the most powerful methods to inform your audience while
increasing participation and trust.
As the pace quickens in our
high-speed society, it's increasingly important to turn at
times, to good old fashioned story-telling--an ancient art that
feeds the hungry soul. Coupled with pace is the fact that
facilitators, being in front of the room as they are, tend to be
viewed as authority figures by many participants, even if only
subconsciously. While we tend to ascribe lofty characteristics
upon authority figures, it can be valuable to your group to
dissolve these potential misconceptions with mild doses of
reality from time to time.
Telling a personal story to your group, that is of course
relevant to the topic at hand, can be a fun, informative, and
interesting way to move your group. While at the same time,
introducing your humanity more fully into the room, and
increasing participants' trust in you.
What are the elements of a good story? Off the top of my head,
I'd say that most stories that support group process would have
some of the following characteristics:
- Stories relating personal experiences are best for engendering
- Stories should be succinct and interesting.
- Stories should contain some deeper message or meaning.
- Stories should be told well with appropriate emotional
engagement by the storyteller.
- The story should somehow relate to what you're trying to do as
a group and should ideally move the group forward.
- The story should not be used to avoid or dance around what's
up for the group.
- The story should not involve anyone who would take offense to
it being told publicly.
Now, let me tell you a story...
Long, long ago, when I was home for
the summer after my freshman year of college, I secured a job
with a pear-packing plant in an adjacent town. This was a manual
labor job but involved a lot of variety. On any given day, I
might be finishing metal parts in the machine shop, repairing
fruit bins, doing light carpentry, general cleaning, etc.
Then one fine day, out of the blue, the boss strolled up to me
with a push broom, a sweeping broom, and a dustpan in hand. This
was the big boss of the whole plant I might add. Big John Bar
was his name. He was a huge hulk of a man, with a brusque
temperament that didn't exert much energy on pleasantries and
could be just plain intimidating most of the time.
He handed me the brooms and said, "I want you to sweep out
the factory." I looked around at this huge factory that was
around 50,000 square feet, and covered with
machinery...conveyers, movers, shakers, and contraptions of
every conceivable type, all bolted solid to the dirt and dust
I replied, "Which part of the factory?" Hoping against
hope that this question would have some relevance. He
replied with the response I had most feared, "All of
it." I took the tools reluctantly and slowly began to
survey what seemed like an impossible job of endless drudgery
for a mere 19 year-old home for the summer.
I seriously considered quitting at this point, but something
inside prompted me to at least give this a try. So I began
pushing the broom. Stroke after endless stroke...stooping under
machinery...clearing the dust...sweeping it into my
dustpan...dumping dirt into the garbage can....hour after
hour....day after day....sweeping and sweeping...nothing but
sweeping. Just the broom and I in an endless dance.
I'm not sure when it happened, but somewhere around the second
or third solid day of sweeping, something began to shift inside
me. I was doing the sweeping the same way but I think that I
must have surrendered to the job or something. I guess I stopped
judging what I was doing and just did it. And in the midst of
the simple and mindless act of sweeping, my mind came to
rest...and began to reflect and review on my life to this point.
It began to reflect on my place in the world...my relationship
to my parents, my sibling, my friends, my desires, my memories,
my actions...thoughts and experiences all seemed to flow past in
a continuous panorama of insights and healing. I actually began
to experience a sense of peace, maybe even joy.
As coworkers walked by on their way to their next task, heads
down, serious and unhappy looking, I found myself smiling big
and yelling, "Good morning Jim! "How's it going Ralph?
What are you up to today John?" I think people were a bit
confused as to why I seemed so happy sweeping the whole damn
That job took an entire week to do. Five days, eight hours a day
of nothing but sweeping. In reality, five days was probably
quite fast considering the scope of the job. Big John was even a
little surprised when I returned to him a week later with the
brooms in hand and smiling said, "All done!" To which
he replied, "Already?"
I think that once I began to embrace the job I noticed that I
became very efficient and focused. And I could tell he was happy
with how I handled this job. I think it was a bit of a test.
What may have been a test for him actually turned into a
"quest" for me. One that I would have never undertaken
voluntarily. And one, the results of which, I would never have
been able to anticipate.
Why did I tell you this story and how does it relate to
facilitation? I guess I just wanted you to know me a little
better. And to maybe be reminded of some things you may have
forgotten in your own lives. And as a facilitator, though I
could venture a guess as to what you got out of this story, I
wouldn't dare do so. Instead, I hold it up as a mirror for you
to reflect upon yourselves. I look forward to hearing
about what you saw in this mirror.
week, use story telling in some way with your groups or in your
life as a gift to others. Also, I'd love to hear what this story
brought up for you, any insights around story-telling and
facilitation that you'd be willing to share, or any story you'd
like to share. Please email your comments to us.
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