Master Facilitator Journal

Master Facilitator Journal | Issue #0343, May 23, 2008
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This issue explores the unspoken and unexamined "stories" that we are enacting both as individuals and as collective members of larger groups. It provides an interesting exercise to "reverse engineer' the story you are enacting. The bottom line here is this: a story you're unconscious of enacting cannot be changed. Getting conscious of "your story" gives you power over it.

For those of you looking to bring a new uplifting perspective to Emotional Intelligence for your clients please see this week's special offer below for the EI workbook and the Facilitators Powerpoint presentation.

If you or your colleagues are interested in submitting an article for consideration, please email your ideas. We would love to hear from you.

Have a safe and joyous weekend! We will see next week.


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The Point

What Story are you Enacting?
How much of your life is directed from the foundation of unexamined mythology?

Intervention Skill

What if we are all enacting some sort of story in our lives?

We live out lives according to a perception of who we are, a vision, set of ideas, or beliefs about ourselves that define us as a central character in what could be called a "myth" or "story". All of the elements of the story have been either passed down as part of our culture or upbringing, intuited, or we've just plain made up. We then go about enacting our stories as if they were true, thus embodying the script from which we live our lives.

So now you may say, "yes I can certainly buy that, I'm very well aware that we are a product of our own thoughts and beliefs. So what's the big deal?"

The big deal is this. The vast majority of us don't know that we're enacting a story. We actually think this is real life that we're living! (see the movie Matrix for a great metaphor). By real life, I mean that we're approaching life based on a set of assumptions that aren't necessarily backed by good evidence. So when we don't know that we are enacting a story, we are completely at its mercy with little control over the role we play and the course it takes.

The story we enact often comes to us piecemeal and/or non-verbally. It may include the stuff we "read between the lines," and unexamined assumptions. If we were to examine each single element of our story by itself, it might appear obvious to us, even if we had never articulated it before. If all the elements, however, were collected and given voice so that they were presented to our conscious awareness, we might be very surprised at what we find. In fact, we may be shocked to the point we would want to forget the story entirely.

Now to make matters even more complicated, in addition to enacting our own individual stories, we are also part of stories which are bigger than us. We are enacting stories within our relationships with individuals, and the groups we are involved in, such as our families, work groups, community organizations, our countries, etc. Even our civilization itself is acting out a story, much of which we may not even be aware.

As a facilitator, you will encounter groups who are troubled, often because they are enacting an unexamined story whose course they feel powerless to alter. Helping them unravel their story will grant them power over it. In other words, until you know you're an author, you cannot change what you're writing.


I propose that we will enact whatever story we choose to adopt as our own, and will settle for the best one available. If we don't take the time to create a better one, we'll continue enacting our current story, even if it isn't working all that well for us.

Discover your story.
Whether you're working with a group or an individual, ask them to assume they're enacting a story. Now based on this assumption, have them uncover the elements of their story. Ask them to be detectives, hunting for clues. Looking at their behaviors alone, have them describe the story they are living, piece by piece, until the "whole" story emerges.

Evaluate your story.
Now have them assess their story. Ask them if this is a story they are happy with. What would they change, remove, or add to this story if it was ideal? Help the group come to consensus on the authoring of the grandest story they can envision. A story that inspires every member of the group.

Tell your story.
Facilitate a commitment from all group members to begin sharing their new story amongst themselves and with other important people in their lives. Encourage individuals to talk about their specific role in the story and why it appeals to them. The more they talk about their new story, the more it will become a part of them.

Rehearse your new role.
Finally, encourage individuals to commit to living their new role in some way. Ask them to commit to making a change or changes in alignment with the new story they wish to enact. Assign a "narrator" for the group that will report the unfolding of the new story each week. The group may even assign a "story time" where they explore what kind of changes are taking place and the challenges that are showing up as they attempt to enact this new story.

Explore how your new story fits into the bigger story of your family, organization, corporation, country, and world.

Your new story may be at odds with the bigger story in which your particular group resides. Explore the contribution to the bigger story your new one can make. Explore any obstacles presented by this bigger story and refine yours if necessary so that it isn't overpowered or subverted by the bigger one. Remember, you are the authors and you can write it any way you wish. You're only limited by your imaginations!


Try the above exercise either with yourself, looking at your own life as a story you're enacting, or with one of your groups. We'd love to hear what happens for you. Please email us and let us know what happened. we would love to hear about it!

This Week's Offer

Before Steve Davis left for the 6 month retreat, we had started to design a workbook on Emotional Intelligence. Steve provided his valuable input for the layout and structure as the master designer. Even though the last few weeks were extremely busy, Steve gave his guidance, and our EI workbook is now ready to be launched along with a Powerpoint presentation. For those of you looking to bring a new uplifting perspective to Emotional Intelligence for your clients please see this week's special offer below for the EI workbook and the Facilitators Powerpoint presentation.


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The materials are structured around four quadrants that cover the following aspects of emotional intelligence:
bullet I-Awareness or Self-Awareness
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bullet We-Awareness or group awareness
bullet Managing Actions and Behaviors of the Group

The common thread that runs through these four aspects is the ‘Resilience Factor’ or the ability to be aware, open, flexible and courageous to manage the actions and behaviors of the self and the group.

This course is designed to accomplish the following learning objectives.
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