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The Master Facilitator Journal | Issue #0028 | November 20, 2001
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Relating Skill

Acknowledge, Support and Validate.

Give these gifts to participants and watch them blossom.

The Point?

Our culture is obsessed with the negative. Strangely, it seems that put downs and negative thinking are considered "realistic" in our culture, while support, praise, and  encouragement are often considered insincere or manipulative. What an insane world we live in! 

Maybe we revel in the mistakes of others to save us from aspiring any higher ourselves or from taking responsibility for our own shortcomings. As a facilitator, one of your major roles is to introduce alternative programming to your small group culture. This alterative entails support, praise, and encouragement.  Almost everyone is hungry for this supportive energy and  blossom when they receive it. 

So seek opportunities to deliver supportive feedback to enliven and empower your group, as long as it is sincere. You obviously wouldn't want to acknowledge counterproductive behaviors. Use acknowledgment to incite behaviors that support group effectiveness, praising behaviors such as risk-taking, being real, deep sharing of truth, supporting other group members, etc. This will lead the group to higher levels of functioning and increased ability to self-facilitate.


Here are some examples of supportive statements a facilitator might use with participants:

"Thanks very much for sharing that Sue. It took a lot of courage for you to do that."

"Joe, I love the way you just gracefully brought the group back on task. That just goes to show that we all have the power to facilitate this group. Thanks for modeling that for others."

"Very well put Sally, I couldn't have said it better myself."

"I just want to acknowledge all of you for your willingness to do this work (to improve your group process). I know it's not easy and it's a rare group of individuals that are up to the task. Well done!"

"Bill, thanks for taking notes today, I really appreciate it."

"Jill, thanks for showing us an example of enlightened leadership. You're a fine example of a facilitative leader."


Your assignment this week is to practice giving praise, acknowledgement, and support to three different people, whether you think they need it or not. Iím interested in hearing what happens for you. Please email me. I'd love to hear about it!

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