Facilitator Journal | Issue #0278, November 14, 2006 ....
This week's article was contributed by author and coach Mary Bast and
was excerpted from her book, "Out of the Box: Coaching with the
Enneagram." This is a great introduction to the use of the enneagram
as a guide to coaching individuals around their strengths and challenges.
We'll explore the enneagram further during our expert interview this
Thursday with Valerie Atkin. Join us then when we'll talk about the
use of the enneagram in facilitation and group work.
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Nine Views of the World...Bringing the
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Enneagram's nine different ways of viewing and reacting to the world.
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Points of View
Coaching with the Enneagram
Walter Frazier was an innovative, idealistic leader. He held high standards
for himself, his employees, and the company, but he was losing people's
respect because of angry tirades whenever he was disappointed with the
quality of someone's work. It would have been easy enough to help Walter
manage his anger. But my questions ran deeper: Why did he feel so much
anger? How could I coach him to break out of the worldview that kept reinforcing
his perfectionism? When I led him to this deeper level, he learned how
to interrupt the inner patterns of processing information that made him
angry. He became less harshly judgmental and his underlying anger began
able to help Walter accomplish this shift with my knowledge of the Enneagram.
This powerful coaching tool identifies nine different ways of viewing
the world, each of which has a common set of patterns. You, too, can coach
people to grow beyond their immediate requests ("resolve conflict
with a colleague," "manage my time better," "prove
to my boss I'm ready for a promotion"), help them break free of their
habitual perspectives, and invoke long-term, profound change.
Enneagram points to a narrow focus of attention, each of the nine styles
directed toward a few inward realities that lead to convictions about
how the world operates and how to act in it:
gift of style One
is the ability to see and work toward perfection. This has narrowed their
focus of attention so they often see only what is wrong, what needs fixing.
The perfectionism of the One is driven by anger that rejects anything
less than the ideal of what should be.
gift of style Two is the ability to anticipate and tend to others'
needs. This narrowed focus on being helpful carries pride that disallows
acknowledging their own needs. If they're in the box, they aren't acting
out of consideration, they're making an emotional investment. If you don't
reward that investment, they can engage in emotional blackmail.
gift of style Three is the drive to succeed in attaining a goal. This
narrow focus of attention can become competitive striving that may rob
them of their souls. In-the-box Threes seek to earn love by performance
and often become workaholics. They try to meet the real or imagined expectations
of others, especially when defined in a role.
gift of style Four is a passion for creativity, emotional depth, and
a profound desire for authenticity. This narrow focus of attention brings
up a fear of being ordinary. In-the-box Fours get stuck in melancholy
because they often feel different from others. Behind this worldview is
a quality of longing, feeling that anything good is always unavailable.
gift of style Five is the ability to conceptualize and to master knowledge.
This narrow focus of attention can cause Fives to be emotionally remote
and socially awkward. In-the-box Fives can live so completely in their
heads that they wish to pay as little attention as possible to the physical
side of life. They can be reserved and intellectual, and tend to hoard
their emotions, time, energy, and thoughts.
gift of style Six is loyalty. From this narrow focus of attention,
Sixes question their inner authority. They look to the group for security,
rules, and norms, yet, paradoxically, are often the ones to challenge
authority. Commonly referred to as fearful, in actuality they cannot stand
being afraid. Consequently, they focus on what could go wrong in order
to take all the necessary precautions.
gift of style Seven
is positive, energetic, upbeat energy. Sevens love to generate ideas.
From their focus of attention on pleasure, variety, and novelty, they
habitually over-schedule and have low tolerance for boredom or discomfort.
Since life has its ups and down, being driven to be cheerful can leave
this style a bit out of touch with the more negative portions of reality.
gift of style Eight
is a natural confidence and ability to take charge. With their narrow
focus of attention, they claim power whether others like it or not. In-the-box
Eights are driven to excess. If some is good, more is better, especially
power. The thrill is in the hunt, however, so they are not necessarily
satisfied with what they get, and can stir things up just to spice up
gift of style Nine
is in being calm, easy-going, and understanding of divergent opinions.
This narrow focus of attention leads them to avoid conflict. They can
see all sides, agree with all sides, and then either achieve consensus
or remain inactive, depending on their level of self-awareness. Anger
is typically suppressed. It has been said of some Nines that they "make
molehills out of mountains."
Out of the Box
With awareness of their underlying motives and openness to significant
shifts in their perspective, each of the nine styles is capable of great
contributions and gifts to organizations, to relationships, and to society
For example, when Jane first contacted me by e-mail, I was charmed by
a visual clue to the Five's low-profile style. Her inquiry was written
in eight-point type! Fives polarize between retreating into their heads
and taking external action. They grow when they interrupt their habitual
patterns and begin to move from thought to action. As they do so, they
become more confident and comfortable in social interactions.
Fives use time and space as boundaries to give themselves privacy and
safety, so it's important to give them time to think things through, especially
when you intend to bring up issues they might find uncomfortable. Even
though they cherish privacy, they can come to a level of trust where they
take emotional risks. They often have an unusual sense of humor and may
even be playful.
Jane had been one of the most knowledgeable people in a field where advancing
technology had made it impossible to know everything. But as she worked
to keep up with the technology, she missed the political dimension. She
didn't know about the people involved in projects -- names, positions,
and/or needs, which caused problems in situations where the political
dimension was important.
her, "What stops you from asking questions about the key players
when you need that information?"
some thought, she said, "I guess I don't want to appear stupid for
to interrupt Jane's habit of hoarding her thoughts -- but I also wanted
to respect her need for a little extra time. So I said, "Will you
do something far out if I suggest it?"
next time this comes up, try really hard to appear stupid!"
both laughed at this suggestion, a signal to me that I had broken through
her usual intellectual response. At our next meeting Jane reported, "I
found myself feeling stupid. I simply noticed it and said, 'Oh, I'm feeling
stupid' and decided to make it happen more. That was great! It was empowering
to actually cause it. I realized that I can't know everything all the
Fives become more generous. They become aware that they risk appearing
arrogant because of their bank of more and better information. I encourage
them to ask for feedback, for opinions, and even for more information
before they give their input. In a later coaching session Jane told me,
"You suggested that I look for things I don't understand and ask
questions about them. I noticed that I resisted asking other people to
clarify things, but I did it anyway and it didn't destroy my ego. I felt
more connected to the people I was talking to and they seemed to feel
more acknowledged for what they knew. In the past my ego had been saying,
'I'm the only one who can know something.' I felt better for giving them
the gift of their being able to shine."
author: Mary Bast, www.breakoutofthebox.com,
has been a corporate and personal coach for more than 25 years. She is
co-author with Clarence Thomson of Out of the Box: Coaching with The Enneagram
and author of Out of the Box Coaching Field Guide, The Self-Coaching Workbook,
and Out of the Box Coaching for Managers.
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Views of the World....
the Wisdom of the Enneagram to Facilitation
Attend this one-hour interview featuring Valerie Atkin,
founder of Wells Street Consulting
During this one-hour
call, we'll discuss how the
Enneagram defines the nine different ways of viewing and reacting to the
world. While it can be studied for a lifetime, even an overview has much
to offer facilitators about their own behavior and that of their groups.
Attend this one-hour tele-seminar
with Valerie Atkin and Steve
Davis Thursday, November 16th at 1:00 PM EST (NY Time).
Some of the points we'll discuss are...
What is the enneagram and where did it come from?
What are the differences between the Enneagram and other instruments like
the MBTI, DISC, etc.?
What are the advantages of learning the Enneagram?
What are the strengths of the Enneagram's as an assessment tool?
What does the Enneagram bring to facilitation?
What are the strengths and possible pitfalls of each Enneagram Style when
What are the strengths of the Enneagram's as a process for growth?
What are the implications of Enneagram style on our ability to respond
to the group versus our own agenda, manage process, respond to group conflict,
What can the enneagram teach us about participant styles that will help
us facilitate more effectively?
How to use the Enneagram to continue growing.
Any questions you bring to the call.
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