Master Facilitator Journal | Issue #0254, May 2, 2006 ....
 

Dear friends,


I've always had a love/hate relationship with public speaking. As a borderline introvert, I prefer not to be in the public light. But there's a part of me that yearns to be in the limelight (for the astrologers among you, I'm on the Leo/Virgo cusp). And after being on-stage, I come away truly energized and enlivened. After attending a recent teleclass lead by my new friend and speaking expert, Lee Glickstein, I came away much more excited and confident about public speaking.

As it turns out, Lee is not only a very well respected public speaker and public speaking trainer, he is also an introvert who values authenticity...a man after my own heart. Lee was quickly able to show me some behaviors that I can use in public speaking that not only feel natural to me, but turn out to be prerequisites for extremely powerful speaking.

In this week's article, "Presence, Ease & Flow," Lee and his colleague, Jo Anne Smith, share some of their speaking tips with us. If these sound good to you, join Lee and I Tuesday, May 16th for a one-hour exploration into his radical approach to public speaking that involves creating a "relational presence" with your audience. See details after the article.


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Presence, Ease & Flow
Keys to excellence in front of any group.

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I've always had a love/hate relationship with public speaking. As a borderline introvert, I prefer not to be in the public light. But there's a part of me that yearns to be in the limelight. And after being on-stage, I come away truly energized and enlivened. After attending a recent teleclass lead by my new friend and speaking expert, Lee Glickstein, I came away much more excited and confident about public speaking.

As it turns out, Lee is not only a very well respected public speaker and public speaking trainer, he is also an introvert who values authenticity...a man after my own heart. Lee was quickly able to show me some behaviors that I can use in public speaking that not only feel natural to me, but turn out to be prerequisites for extremely powerful speaking. Among those behaviors are Presence, Ease, and Flow. Here's what Lee has to say about these as they unfold in his ongoing Speaking Circles.

  • PRESENCE is being with and staying with one person at a time no matter how it feels.
  • EASE emerges when Presence becomes comfortable and pleasurable.
  • FLOW develops from Ease as the right words and actions arise spontaneously in any moment.

It's Flow that most everyone desires; Flow in communication, love, money, work, health, spirit, creativity. Flow inexorably emerges from the capacity for Ease with self, others, and the world. And the pathway to Ease is through Presence, which is the priority of Speaking Circles.

Presence
Presence is absolute availability to oneself and others. When we are fully Present, we not only see, hear and appreciate our listeners, but we also allow ourselves to be seen openly in each moment, without mask or cover-up.

There is a range of reactions among Speaking Circle participants to the emphasis on Presence. Many experience an immediate revelation, an ecstatic homecoming that never ends. For others, exploring Presence initially brings with it the opposite of Ease: discomfort.

Presence as a priority has nothing to do with "feeling good." Rather, developing the capacity to be present at any moment in life is where personal, professional, and spiritual development intersect. Common strategies or habits for avoiding the discomfort of being present include hiding behind our personality, over-thinking, over-preparing, over-talking, performing, disconnecting, and "talking at." When we are willing to make coming back to Presence a priority at any moment (no matter how it feels, or how difficult it is to think clearly), the pathway to Ease is cleared.

Ease
Ease is the grace of embodied Presence. It happens when Presence becomes a pleasure and light fills the room. It can take hold at one's first Circle and deepen from there, or it may take awhile. Fortunately, there is such great satisfaction in the community of listening that the path provides its own rewards as people experience Ease permeating their public presence.

Speaking Circles inherently lead one into a natural mastery of "easy listening" that serves in all aspects of life.

Flow
As for Flow, we've seen the singular wisdom and discovery that flow from Ease in Speaking Circles. We've heard participants report dramatic breakthroughs in work and relationship resulting from what they've learned about themselves and about life. We've experienced the laughter and tears, the stories and creativity that electrify the room when the person who is the center of attention is in absolute Ease.

Flow is the state that mobilizes one's full potential for action without effort. With Speaking Circle practice, many people notice themselves increasingly functioning from this state in their personal and professional lives.

Application

Speaking Perspectives Checklist

You know you have mastered PRESENCE when you:

  • Can stand in front of any group and always and only be with one individual at a time no matter how you feel or what you think.
  • Allow yourself to be seen and heard, without cover-up or technique.
  • Can maintain soft eye availability at all times in front of a group, even if it is uncomfortable to do so.
  • Can feel nervous, anxious or afraid and still stay in relationship with one listener at all times.

You know you have mastered EASE when you:

  • Experience the pleasure of simply being yourself in front of any group with no feeling of pressure to please or perform.
  • You feel grounded in inner stillness in front of any group.
  • You experience physical sensations as excitement or anticipation, rather than anxiety or nervousness.

You know you have mastered FLOW when you:

  • Embody Ease while you engage your intellect and sense of discrimination so your words and actions flow effortlessly.
  • Maintain Ease while what you know (and what you didn't know you knew) flows naturally from your mind, heart and spirit.
  • Notice that you are living life with more and more clarity, passion, authenticity, and in harmony with the moment.


About the Author. Lee Glickstein is
Founder and President of Be Heard Now! Training. Lee received the Athena Award for Excellence in Coaching and Mentoring in 1996. A lifetime of stage fright motivated him to develop an elegant approach to break through the widespread fear of being fully oneself in the world. This discovery led him to a profound understanding of the principles of natural communication through Relational Presence. For the past sixteen years, Lee has been a keynote speaker, consultant, trainer, and Speaking Circle Facilitator. He is author of Be Heard Now! Tap Into Your Inner Speaker and Communicate with Ease (Broadway Books) and Be Heard Now! How to Speak Naturally and Powerfully in Front of Any Audience (Sounds True Audiotapes).

Copyright 2003, Lee Glickstein & Jo Anne Smith. All rights reserved. Reprinted with permission.

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How do you rate on the scale of presence, ease, and flow? What do you plan to do this week to improve in one of these areas? I look forward to your comments, insights or feedback about this article. Just click reply and type them directly into this email.

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When you stand in front of a group to open a training, a meeting, or a talk, where typically is your anxiety on this continuum?

Terror -- Fear -- Anxiety -- Coping -- Ease -- Flow -- Mastery

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